Be a guide, not a guard: How to raise a happy + responsible kid - MotherlyWe all want to raise responsible children. As my son said, surveying the littered park when he was three, "Don't grownups know they have to clean up their own messes? So how do we raise our kids to take responsibility for their choices and their impact on the world? You begin by seeing responsibility as something joyful for your child, instead of a burden. All children want to see themselves as response-able -- powerful and able to respond to what needs to be done. They need this for their self esteem, and for their lives to have meaning. Children don't want just to be doted on.
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Raising a Responsible Child: How to Prepare Your Child for Today's Complex World
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It's a term I learned at a recent training session focused on reducing controlling parenting behaviors. It doesn't matter what we do, he doesn't care. This is parenting like a guard. It is inflexible, rules-based parenting that requires punishment when a child doesn't behave. The most anti-social children are often parented in this way. They don't care about the meaning of the rules set; instead they decide whether to comply based on whether they will get hurt. Controlling parenting practices are also correlated to poor mental health in children and youth.
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Raise a responsible child who's happy to help out, not reluctant to pitch in. With some patience and a few parenting tricks up your sleeve, you'll be well on your way to raising a responsible child who becomes a responsible adult. Everyone in your house can be given specific tasks to teach them responsibility. Even your toddlers can help out and starting them young makes it easier to hand them even more responsibility as they grow older. Assign age-appropriate tasks around the house. Preschoolers can dust with socks over their hands.
We all want our kids to be responsible. The elementary and preteen years are a prime time for kids to bone up on their ability to plan ahead, meet deadlines, follow through on promises, and make sensible decisions—all skills that add up to a kid who can be counted on. Follow these steps to get your child on the right track. Show kids what being responsible looks like by following through on your own obligations and commitments yes, even that promised trip to the frozen yogurt shop , being on time for appointments, and accepting accountability for your mistakes instead of making excuses or blaming others. Having jobs around the house helps kids prove to themselves that they are valued and dependable members of the family. Elementary-age kids can handle chores like folding laundry, loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash.