Best books on being likeable

Do you make people feel comfortable and welcome when they are around you? Do people feel appreciated, understood and accepted by you? Likeable people know how to endear themselves to others from the get-go. They understand the importance presenting themselves as being genuine and willing to connect. Do this, and people will see you as someone they want to have a conversation with and hang out with. It may seem like charismatic people are born charming, but the truth is that likability can be learned and honed, just like any other skill.

Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over adjectives based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated adjectives had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive innate characteristics. Instead, the top adjectives were sincerity, transparency, and capacity for understanding another person. These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. We did some digging to uncover the key behaviors that emotionally intelligent people engage in that make them so likeable.

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